Mother’s Day can be a vivid reminder for those grieving their relationship with their mom. The absence of something gets your attention and it’s both upsetting and confusing. Acknowledge your emotions; it’s okay to feel what is present for you. 

There’s a lot of pressure to have the relationship with your mother look or be a certain way. Give yourself permission to not be hard on yourself. Instead, practice some self-care and self-compassion. Take time for self-care; engage in activities that bring solace and comfort, whether it’s journaling, meditation, or a leisurely walk. If it’s available to you, surround yourself with supportive friends or family members who understand and validate your feelings. Reach out for professional support if needed; therapy can provide a safe space to explore complex emotions. 

Remember, grief can be mysterious, distressing, and complicated. Be gentle with yourself and take time to learn and understand how you experience grief in your mind, body, and heart.